Believing anyone genuinely loves them is really difficult for kids who think No One REALLY Loves Them. This final like in the Fighting The Lies series is rooted in their distorted understanding of love. Behaviors that present when this lie is prevalent include self sabotage, combative behavior and trying to find acceptance at almost any cost.

To combat this lie, kids need to be reminded they are loved and we will discuss the value of intentional words, the child feeling they belong, revisiting memories, and inside jokes.

This episode is all about the lie No One Cares About Me which is based in an experience from their childhood where they felt that an adult they trusted did not pay adequate attention due to them not being important. Kids who typically struggle with this lie, often are hungry for affirmation and are rarely satisfied by any quantity of time with the adults they worry care about them. This can make raising them difficult, especially alongside other children.

This lie kids believe is based on the ideas that no one cares about what they need - emotionally or relationally. To fight this lie, we can show the kids struggling to believe they are worth caring about and that we care about how they feel. There are many frequent behaviors that a child displays when they are unaware this lie is present or are unable to communicate it. We can model the value of consent, build attachment and help the child develop awareness of their emotions and needs.

Kids from Trauma often believe lies and have fears associated with these lies. This week we are combatting the Lie: I Have To Provide For Myself. When they did not have what they needed, kids who struggle with this lie learned they need to worry about adult sized things.